Yesterday marked the one year point since I first landed in New Zealand. So much has changed since then, so I will attempt to summarise my first year in this post. To make it more interesting for you, the reader, I will compare my expectations with reality in five different sections.
1. What it’s been like studying again
Expectations
One of the main reasons I chose to to come to New Zealand was to study. It had been some eight years since I had last been in academia (I graduated back in 2008!), so was feeling a mixture of trepidation (did I still have the self-discipline and motivation necessary to undertake a Masters course?) and excitement (this could open up so many doors for me if I managed to complete the Masters…). What’s more, I would be entering a new field of study in the form of social work, and was not sure how closely my previous knowledge gained from a degree in Psychology would match up. To top it off, I would be studying in another country at the highest overall ranked university in New Zealand (and top 100 in the world!) where the academic demands may be very different from what I was used to back in the UK.
Reality
Thankfully, I did not have too much to worry about. Although the first assignment was a bit of a struggle (getting the old mental cogs turning again!), it didn’t take long before I settled into academic life once more. Plus, being a “mature student” definitely gave me a different perspective on things from when I was a naive nineteen-year old starting my undergraduate degree. The reason I chose to study social work was because it seemed much clearer to me how it could be applied in the “real world” than Psychology, and so far it has not disappointed in this regard. The first practicum placement (similar to an apprenticeship but, sadly, unpaid!) gave me glimpse into the sort of role I could find myself in at the end of my degree, and I was encouraged by how my degree might be so readily applied.
2. Living in Auckland
Expectations
Having spent most of my life growing up in rural Devon, and then being plunged into living just outside the metropolis of Seoul, South Korea, I was hoping that Auckland might provide me with a happy medium. I was looking for a city that would provide all the conveniences you could be expected to need within reasonable reach but not with the overwhelming population size of somewhere like Seoul, where a ride on the Underground is tantamount to a survival of the fittest! Also, being not too far from nature, parks and beaches were all important factors for consideration.
Reality
The closest comparison I can make to Auckland based on the cities I’ve lived in so far would be Bristol, located in the Southwest of England. Although the population of Auckland is around three times that of Bristol, the city covers an area roughly five times that of Bristol. The result is that the city doesn’t feel overly congested to say, somewhere like London, Seoul or Manila, although I have been warned that the daily commute by car is an entirely different story! In addition to this, I can’t think of many cities that I have visited that have so much greenery as there is in abundance in Auckland. Climb any nearby mount and you will be amazed by how many trees there around in all directions (unless you are near the coast, obviously!). The air also feels much cleaner for it, too. This is in stark contrast to where I was living near Seoul, South Korea, which was like a concrete jungle and everywhere appeared so brown, grey and dreary.
3. Working in New Zealand
Expectations
I thought that I would have no problem in being able to find work in a matter of weeks, after all I had chosen to live in the biggest city in New Zealand (and indeed, this was a big factor in choosing Auckland as a destination in which to study). I thought that my previous experience of working in shops and cafes would stand me in good stead for picking up casual work alongside my studies here.
Reality
Fast-forward a few months and I was only working about 4 hours per week note-taking for the university and still waiting to hear back from a position that I had first applied for some two months prior! Needless to say, money became extremely tight and this was one of the most stressful parts of my first year here. Since then, I am on my third job here and really feel that I have found my niche as a telephone and online counsellor for children and young people in New Zealand. I couldn’t have wished to land a better job, and though at times it can be very demanding and require your complete concentration, it has been immensely rewarding and I am extremely grateful to have been given such a wonderful opportunity.
4. Renting in Auckland
Expectations
I had been warned prior to coming here that renting in Auckland was not cheap, and actually among the most expensive cities in the world! With all the university accommodation already gone by the time I had gotten around to looking for it, this meant I would be going it alone and accommodation searches was to occupy most of my first week in New Zealand. I spent this first week staying in a hostel on K’Road where there were at least five strip clubs (one right opposite!) and party-goers roaming the streets right outside until 3 or 4am in the morning, without a single consideration for the jet-lagged person trying to stave off sleep deprivation in the hostel opposite. See my first blog post on this experience here: Settling in….
Reality
More by luck than skill, I managed to land a studio apartment within 5 days in a very safe and quiet suburb just on the outskirts of Auckland CBD. Whilst the weekly rent for a single person was on the absolute upper end of my budget, when Janice moved in the rent for two people was a lot more affordable. See How a couple can live off $500 a week in Auckland. This place has so many pluses: a really nice-sized clean kitchen, a communal living space with a massive wide-screen TV with Sky (which is hardly ever in use!) and secure entrances with CCTV footage. The only down-side is that we now have to keep our food storage containers in our room (due to Health and Safety Guidelines). Janice and I live on the top floor and probably do the most cooking out of everyone that lives here! Lifting our full-to-bursting food box up and down those stairs three times a day is certainly good strengths training, if a little inconvenient.
5. Living with someone for the first time
Expectations
This was a major concern for my parents. How would I cope living in such close quarters with someone whom I had only ever been travelling with before? They were right, to a certain extent at least: travelling with someone is completely different from deciding on whose turn it is to take out the rubbish, whether the window should be left open or closed at night, whether the fan should be on or off, whose going to do the dishes, whose turn it is to cook, when to do the food shopping, planning and budgeting together, dividing the weekly expenses, deciding whether we can afford to eat out this week (or even this month, when money is tight…), who’s going to put on the laundry? (who’s going to hang it up?) etc. etc. etc.
Reality
Once the initial “honeymoon period” was over (probably not long after a month!), the conversations that become necessary in order to function effectively as a partnership living together (Team Sputnik!) start to take centre stage. Whilst there will always be a few teething problems (made worse by assignment deadlines, late shifts at work and general exhaustion…), most of the time we have managed to find successful compromises which avoids a feeling of growing resentment when the other one is seen as “not pulling their weight”. Talking from my own experience of the first two months I spent here in New Zealand (before Janice joined me), I can honestly say that my general well-being and happiness is much greater now than it was back then. We always knew that the first couple of years would be a struggle for us both financially, but having made it this far I am excited by what lies in store for us when we can start spreading our wings a little and seeing what this beautiful country truly has to offer!